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For those who believe, no proof is necessary. For those who don't believe, no proof is possible. John & Lun St. Clair Thomas

To find yourself, think for yourself.Socrates

One does not discover new lands without consenting to lose sight of the shore for a time. Andre Gide

If you shut your door to all errors truth will be shut out.Rabindranath Tagore

Doubt is a pain too lonely to know that Faith is his twin brother. Kahlil Gibran

The more you depend on forces outside of yourself, the more you are dominated by them. Harold Sherman

A sense of purpose is not something that you find; it is something that you are. Dr. Wayne Dyer

The creation of something new is not accomplished by the intellect but by the play instinct acting from inner necessity. The creative mind plays with the object it loves. Carl G. Jung

It is simple to calculate how many seeds are in an apple. But who among us can ever say how many apples are in a seed? Dr. Wayne Dyer

...do keep an ear out for the inaudible and mysterious sounds of silence. There's a lot happening there too, perhaps more than written expression can capture. And what makes these sounds most mysterious, and healing, is that it's never quite clear where they are coming from. Dr. J. Russo

When love beckons to you, follow him. Though his ways are hard and steep. And when his wings enfold you, yield to him, though the sword hidden among his pinions may wound you. And when he speaks to you, believe in him. Though his voice may shatter your dreams as the north wind lays waste the garden. Kahlil Gibran

Love is letting go of fear. Gerald Jampolsky

Do the thing and you will have the power . Ralph Waldo Emerson

Your pain is the breaking of the shell that encloses your understanding. Kahlil Gibran

Men are disturbed not by the things that happen, but by their opinion of the things that happen. Epictetus

You are never asked to do more than you are able without being given the strength and ability to do it. Eileen Caddy

We are what we think. All that we are arises with our thoughts. With our thoughts we make the world. Speak or act with a pure mind and happiness will follow you as your shadow, unshakable. The Dhammapada

The snow goose need not bathe to make itself white. Neither need you to do anything but be yourself. Lao-tse

We are injured and hurt emotionally-not so much by other people or what they say or don't say-but by our own attitude and our own response. Maxwell Maltz

Work is love made visible. Kahlil Gibran

How soon will you realize that the only thing you don't have is the direct experience that there's nothing you need that you don't already have. Ken Keyes, JR

Don't try to force anything. Let life be a deep let-go. See God open millions of flowers every day without forcing the buds. Bhagwan Shree Rajneesh

You know quite well deep within you, that there is only a single magic, a single power, a single salvation... and that is called loving. Well then, love your suffering. Do not resist it, do not flee from it. It is only your aversion that hurts, nothing else. Herman Hesse

Truth is not something you look for; it is something you live. Dr. Wayne Dyer

Yesterday is but today's memory and Tomorrow is today's dream. Kahlil Gibran

It is good to have an end to journey towards, but it is the journey that matters, in the end.Ursula Le Guin

Realize that you cannot help a soul unless that soul really wants help and is ready to be helped. I tell you to send that soul nothing but Love and more love. Be still and wait, but be there when that soul turns for help. Eileen Caddy

A loving person lives in a loving world. A hostile person lives in a hostile world. Everyone you meet is your mirror. Ken Keyes, JR

You will decide on a matter, and it will be established for you, and light will shine on you always. Bible: JOB 22:28

Life is like a wild tiger. You can either lie down and let it lay its paw on your head -- Or sit on its back and ride it. Ride the Wild Tiger

The most effective way to achieve right relations with any living thing is to look for the best in it, and then help that best into the fullest expression. J. Allen Boone

What is of all things most yielding can overcome that which is most hard. Being substanceless, it can enter in even where there is no crevice. That is how I know the value of action which is actionless. But that there can be teaching without words Value in action what is actionless Few indeed can understand. That the yielding conquers the resistant and the soft conquers the hard is a fact known by all but utilized by none. Lao Tsu

Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Concerning all acts of initiative (and creation), there is one elementary truth, the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then Providence moves too. Scottish Himalayan Expedition

Admit the void; accept loss forever. Not to admit the void is the trouble with those schizophrenics who treat words as real things. Schizophrenic literalism equates symbol and original object so as to retain the original object, to avoid object-loss. Freedom in the use of symbolism ccomes from the capacity to experience loss. Wisdom is mourning; blessed are they that mourn. Normal O. Brown, Love's Body

THE INVITATION Oriah Mountain Dreamer, Indian Elder May 1994

It doesn't interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for, and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart's longing.

It doesn't matter to me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool for love, for your dreams, for the adventure of being alive.

It doesn't matter to me what planets are squaring your moon. I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow, if you have been opened by life's betrayals or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.

I want to know if you can sit with pain, mine or your own, without moving to hide it or fade it or fix it. I want to know if you can be with joy, mine or your own; if you can dance with wildness and let ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes without cautioning us to be careful, be realistic, or to remember the limitations of being human.

It doesn't interest me if the story you are telling me is true. I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself; if you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul. I want to know if you can be faithful and therefore trustworthy.

I want to know if you can see beauty even if it's not pretty everyday, and if you can source your life from God's presence.

I want to know if you can live with failure, yours and mine, and still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the sliver of the full moon, "Yes!"

It doesn't interest me to know where you live or how much money you have. I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair, weary and bruised to the bone, and do what needs to be done for the children.

It doesn't matter to me who you are, how you came to be here. I want to know if you will stand in the center of the fire with me and not shrink back.

It doesn't interest me where or what or with whom you have studied. I want to know what sustains you from the inside when all else falls away. I want to know if you can be alone with yourself, and if you truly like the company you keep in the empty moments.


"The hero's journey always begins with the call. One way or another a guide must come to say, "Look, you're in Sleepy Land. Wake. Come on a trip. There is a whole aspect of your consciousness, your being, that's not being touched. So you're at home here? Well, there's not enough of you there." And so it starts. The call is to leave a certain social situation, move into your own loneliness and find the jewel, the center that's impossible to find when you're socially engaged. You are thrown off center, and when you feel off-center, it's time to go. This is the departure when the hero feels something has been lost and goes to find it. You are to cross the threshold into a new life. It's a dangerous adventure, because you are m |oving out of the sphere of the knowledge of you and your community. The first step, detachment or withdrawal, consists in a radical transfer of emphasis from the external to the internal world, macro- to microcosm, a retreat from the desperations of the waste land to the peace of the everlasting realm that is within. It is the realm that we enter in sleep. We carry it within ourselves forever. All the ogres and secret helpers of our nursery are there, all the magic of childhood. And more important, all the life-potentialities that we never managed to bring into adult realization, those other portions of ourself, are there; for such golden seeds do not die. When one thinks of some reason for not going or has fear and remains in society because it's safe, the results are radically different from what happens when one follows the call. If you refuse to go, then you are someon ¶e else's servant. When this refusal of the call happens, there is a kind of drying up, a sense of life lost. Everything in you knows that a required adventure has been refused. Anxieties build up. What you have refused to experience in a positive way, you will experience in a negative way. If what you are following, however, is your own true adventure, if it is something appropriate to your deep spiritual need or readiness, then magical guides will appear to help you. If you say, "Everyone's going on this trip this year, and I'm going too," then no guides will appear. Your adventure has to be coming right out of your own interior. If you are ready for it, then doors will open where there were no doors before, and where there would not be doors for anyone else. And you must have the courage. When you cross the threshold, you are passing into the dark forest, taking a plunge into the sea, embarking upon the night sea journey. It involves passing through classing rocks, narrow gates, or the like, which represent yes and no, the pairs of opposites. There will be a moment when the walls of the world seem to open for a second, and you get an insight through . . . What this represents psychologically is the trip from the realm of consciousness, rational intentions into the zone of those other energies of the body that are moving from another center; the center with which you are trying to get in touch. As you now go towards the center, there will come more aids, as well as more difficult trials. You have to give up more and more of what you're hanging on to. The final thing is a total giving up, a yielding all the way. This is a place directly opposite your life experiences and all that you've be Îen taught. Psychologically, it's a shift into the unconsciousness; otherwise, it's a move into a field of action of which you know nothing . . . The deeper you go, and the closer you get to the final realization, the heavier the resistance. You are coming down to those areas that are the ones that are repressed, and it's that repression system that you have to pass through. And there, of course, is where magical aid is most required. The hero may here discover for the first time that there is everywhere a benign power supporting him in his superhuman passage. You come then to the final experience of discovering and making your own that which was lacking in the place from which you departed."